I need ALOT of help with my project right now, am I being unrealistic?

You can't expect changes in your man because you want or need them to happen. You have to encourage and motivate him to help out. Yes, to you, it appears that he's unhelpful. To him, it looks like you've "made your bed, now sleep in it". The lack of organization is probably one source of your stress, so motivate your man to help with some small piece of organizing and then thank him. Ask nicely, for some additional help with something specific, then thank him again. Don't ask or demand any broad things, like "Help me clean up" or "Get everything organized and put away" as he will likely go back to Facebook and leave you to clean your own mess.